Preprogramming For Success

Many people have fear. Afraid of the unknown, fearful of change, afraid not to fit in, afraid to stand out, afraid not to be able to provide. All culminating in a fear preventing them from being themselves. Giving whole new meaning to the question: how are you?



Nothing in life is for free, nor does life set us up to be free. Freedom more specifically, we define by the boundaries that protect everyone’s general interpretation of freedom, compounded by unique individual desires and expectation of freedom

Control and freedom, therefore, are like opposite forces on the rudder of a ship and can guide that ship down a successful course. From the start, both forces are needed to teach children right from wrong, to separate opportunity from danger, to enjoy happiness and overcome depression, as children grow up to become adults.



New and unexpected situations in life demonstrate what a child has learned from the unique balance and influence of both male and female role models in life (in straight and gay marriages). With the male role-model as the risk-taking hunter and the female role-model as the careful nurturer at its foundation, a child ultimately formulates a unique balance, social character and personal definition of freedom, calibrated by the influence of their ever-changing environment.

All of us are preprogrammed from the start by an ecosystem of influences in which its unique balance rather than a single parameter defines us.

A fighting spirit can fight discomfort head-on, a laid-back personality could do the same by deploying ignorance. All of life’s influences can be dealt with confidence (without the need for that influence to demand respect). And the crucial role of parents in the early process of shaping or preprogramming a child’s confidence is undeniable.



Many parents themselves, however, are suppressed and afraid. Afraid of the unknown, fearful of change, afraid not to fit in, afraid to stand out, afraid not to be able to provide, culminating in a fear to be their authentic self. Our world is driven by fear.

Most of that fear is self-induced. The need to have expensive cars, to live in a fancy house, to go out to dinner three times a week, to buy all the products you desire, are all wants that trigger a fear of losing. That fear creates whores of society, where dressing up in a suit and tie (that deprives the wearer of oxygen) is not the most comfortable thing to do, but hides a fear of not fitting in. Or where getting a job is more respected than following your passion and taking chances. Or where just getting married hides the fear of being alone or prevents being perceived as weird. Remember, you can always choose to live on a beach and eat coconuts and fish all day, as your last (but not so shabby) resort.



Fear is the outcome of social control a child, heavily tuned to interpret nonverbal parental communication, immediately picks up on. A child’s confidence and self-esteem is a direct corollary to the balance of their parents’ behavior (they mostly ignore the words), and the preprogramming of descendant behavior has started.

When marriages are dysfunctional and imbalanced, as statistically the majority of marriages are, children quickly imitate that behavioral imbalance with their own. As a result, the preprogramming that occurs unknowingly emulates the fear and subsequent compliant thinking of the parents.

Children are therefore preprogrammed (yet not guaranteed) to fit in, share their common fears and fit in socially, and conversely become less equipped to think differently and less likely to succeed entrepreneurially. Hence we use the following phrase we coined, not lightheartedly:

“Not everyone can be an entrepreneur, but an entrepreneur can come from anywhere”. – Georges van Hoegaerden



Few children with traits that conquered their influences can propel beyond their parents, but when they do they are challenged by another product of our lack of freedom: an economic model that pretends to be just as “free” as our social system and because of its lies rarely rewards the authentic outliers at scale. And thus the outlook for a child’s unprecedented success is bleak.

So, to improve entrepreneurial capacity we first need to govern the creation of real free-market systems, that rewards the authentic merit of individual participants. Only then can our social confidence improve and the programming of our children become a more faithful representation of the incredible opportunities that lie ahead.

Setting an example is the best way to predispose our children for success. Step one is to stop lying about the freedom deployed by our economic and financial systems.


The sign of an intelligent nation is its willingness and ability to reinvent itself, upstream. Let’s inspire the world with new rigors of excellence we first and successfully apply to ourselves.

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